What is the serenity prayer?

November 15, 2016
Johann Kassim

What is the serenity prayer?

In 1934 at Heath, Massachusetts, an American theologian, Reinhold Niebuhr composed a rather infamous prayer on serenity and surrender, which is very apt for recovery. It is known as the serenity prayer. There are many versions to the prayer, here is a modified sample of the original form:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference…Living one day at a time; enjoying each moment at a time; accepting hardship as a pathway to peace; taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your Will; so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with you forever in the next. Amen.”

Adaptation into 12-Step Recovery Programs

The widespread use of the serenity prayer can be found in all 12-step programs. One would find that meetings usually start with the prayer and end with it. The connection between Niebuhr’s composition and the twelve steps happened accidentally and all of a sudden. 

In 1942, Bill Wilson, the founder of the very first 12-step group, known as AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) wrote of a New York member, Jack, who brought to everyone’s attention a caption in a routine New York Herald Tribune obituary that read the following lines:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” 

Thus began the ubiquitous use of this prayer among AAs as it enveloped the group’s essence in just a few words. Prior to that, AAs had been using other prayers such as the Lord’s prayer and the prayer of St. Francis. Yet, this unassuming prayer with rather humbling origins, claimed its place as the primary go-to for addicts and alcoholics alike because it was sweet and simple. Furthermore, it had traversed religious and national boundaries as it is globally used today in 12-step fellowships worldwide, proving for the first time that man can actually be united in a common cause at a spiritual level.

How does it help addicts? 

In so few words, the serenity prayer does indeed sum the essence of recovery for many. Here is why reciting the prayer helps addicts in recovery and why reiterating it has been encouraged as a timeless tradition within the rooms. The following are ways in which the prayer has proved useful to the malady of addiction:

1)     Acceptance is not laziness!

Acceptance is not apathy towards a particular cause. Acceptance is acknowledging one’s limitations and it has a rather remedying effect towards people who think it is their duty to bare the world on their shoulders. Addicts in active addiction flee from responsibility because we can’t accept the conditions of the world in which we live in. We have taken on more than we can hold for any given moment. Acceptance allows us to surrender the things, which we cannot control nor change over to a higher power or authority, who can then take charge of those enigmatic issues.

2)     It takes immense courage to change.

Change is never easy and often times scary to even contemplate. Yet, change is a necessary part of recovering from active addiction. It takes immense and extraordinary courage to face the truths of our realities as addicts and plunge into an unknown world called recovery. More importantly, the fact we have no control over the people, places, and things in our lives, makes the serenity prayer so affective for those recovering from active addiction. This is because it takes significant change to accept our own powerlessness to mature in life.

3)     The goodness of hardships

“Hardships as a pathway to peace” is part of the complete version of the serenity prayer. Even though it is not recited by the 12-step groups as part of a daily meeting, yet it is intimately connected to the last line of the often recited version: “…and the wisdom to know the difference.” Regularly, those in early recovery feel that this wisdom refers to what comes easy in life. Often times serenity appears only after one has committed to acting on the more difficult choices in life. For example, the choice to watch television and laze about or go to work and be useful to society often times can be the difference between returning to active addiction and having a fulfilling life in recovery. Doing the latter, which is difficult and does not come naturally will eventually yield its rewards in spiritual growth precisely because it challenges the addiction from its apathy. Hence, hardships are good!

4)     Happiness is attainable – Now and In the future.

Serenity itself means the freedom to be happy. It is possible to be happy in hard times. It is possible to be happy in good times. It is possible to attain happiness in recovery. The recitation of the serenity prayer is a reminder of what rewards await the addict beyond surrender – a life of complete joy and carefreeness. 

Taken from: http://www.the-alcoholism-guide.org/aa-serenity-prayer.html

Taken from: barefootsworld.net/aaserenityprayerorig.html

Taken from: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/18/serenity-prayer-wisdom_n_4965139.html

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